What is your ‘Dream Self?’ It’s a concept I came up with while writing a screenplay (which was about a novelist—go figure). However, I found that it applies BIG TIME to real life. (Don’t you love my advanced writer’s vocab? I thought so.)
Quite simply, your dream self is you long to be. More precisely it’s the REAL YOU, that longs to get out.
If someone could wave a magic wand and let you be whoever you wanted to be, this would be the person you would choose to be. Well guess what, you don’t need anyone to give you permission, and you definitely don’t need a magic wand, you just need to get off your lazy ass and start being who you dream of being.
‘Get off my lazy ass?’ You say? Yes, I just told you to get off your lazy ass. But it’s okay because what I say to others I say to myself: ‘Get off my freaking lazy ass, Daniel. You’ve come this far—so what? If I don’t keep fighting every day to make my dreams a reality, it will all amount to nothing.”
So neither of us are off the hook.
I have a friend who dreams of being a TV writer. You know, those guys who write sitcoms and comedies? And yet he never lifts a finger ever to write. If you want to be a TV writer, don’t wait for a graven invitation from the TV networks. You make your own damn success.
TO ACCOMPLISH YOUR DREAMS YOU MUST OVERCOME EVERY DAY
Resistance. Most people are its slaves. Overcome Resistance and become your dream self. All it takes is action every day, regardless of how small that action is. Everything happenss organically, gradually, like getting a six pack.
If you aren’t DOING what your dream self does every day, guess what? You’ll never become that dream self. You’ll turn 70 and think “Oh sh*%, what the hell did I do with my life? I wanted to be a painter, I wanted to be a singer, I wanted to be [insert your dream here] But I never took 5 freaking minutes of my time to pursue that.” What the fu%&? No one else is going to make your dreams come true. That’s up to you.
The good news is that you don’t need any special license to be whatever you want to be. I watched a video in which Jeff Goins, the author of the Writer’s Manifesto, said that one day someone asked him what he would ideally like to be doing if he could do anything. To which he replied “I’d like to be a writer.” The person then told him “Jeff, you don’t need anyone’s permission to be a writer, just be a writer.” (Paraphrasing) He said from that day forward, he just started being a writer. Now he has one of the top writing blogs.
Here’s a quote from a book which I consider requiring reading for living, War of Art, and it’s about being your dream self. The author, Steven Pressfield, refers to what I call ‘dream self’ as our ‘self-in-potential.’ But it’s the same thing.
We’re facing dragons too. Fire-breathing griffins of the soul, whom we must outfight and outwit to reach the treasure of our self-in-potential and to release the maiden who is God’s plan and destiny for ourselves and the answer to why we were put on this planet.
So stop being miserable and starting being your dream self. All it takes is consistent action every day, however small. Even if it’s only 30 minutes a day to begin with.
….alright, I always forget this part, so here we go: what are your thoughts on being your ‘dream self’? Do you like my post? Hate it? Cyberspace is a free country. Leave your thoughts below.